Blog #2 – 4.30.24
Have you ever heard of Tim Ferriss? Most of my friends haven’t. It’s funny that I’m the only one in my circles who’s into self-improvement. I try to get them interested but I guess it’s the sort of thing they have to discover on their own. Tim Ferriss is kind of the life hack king. Famous for his book “4-Hour” (insert thing here) work, chef, body. He was one of the first people ever to do a TED talk and his first Ted talk was on this Stoicism based concept called “Fear Setting”, kind of meant to be the opposite of goal setting. Setting a goal is about what you want to achieve, fear setting is about what’s the worst that can happen in any decision. One thing I really struggle with is the fear of failing at my job. The irony is that the worst case scenario isn’t losing my job. I would honestly be relieved if I got fired. My greatest fear is the self-imposed shame. I have always been simultaneously self-condemned but afraid of the small-minded beliefs and opinions of others and not being enough. I have very little proof of being enough. Dumped by all my girlfriends. I’m a failed musician, I struggle to achieve the attention of women I like. Nobody is chasing me. I believe I am capable of anything, I know that to be true, but I become immensely sad and frustrated when I can’t or don’t succeed. Fear Setting, I’m going to try it.
Colin Coleman 